So, you took the plunge. You moved somewhere you didn’t know anyone, you moved for love, you took a job, you got an internship, you decided to live that bohemian dream in Montmartre, you left after the divorce, you needed a change.
Starting over is HARD. And if you’re like me and go big or don’t go, starting over in a new place is REAL HARD. Depending on how many borders you crossed to set up your new life, feeling settled can be – ahem – tricky at best. Visas, registrations, leases, new laws, etc. Throw all that on top of not having your support system and it can be, to say the least, overwhelming.
And, let’s face it. There are mornings you wake up and wonder WTF have I done? What am I doing here? WTH was I thinking? But, before you go thinking you don’t have what it takes, remember how brave you were and how much farther you’ve gotten than all those people at home saying… I could never do that.
This is one of the most exciting things you’ll ever experience. You created an opportunity to be free from the assumptions and expectations you came from, the should’s and would’s to get to know yourself better, to grow as a forever foreign femme, to head in a new direction, to gain independence. The options are endless love! I’m getting excited/nervous/exhausted just thinking about it again. But, I’ve done it a bagillion times. I think that’s a number. And, by choosing a life married to a bloke from the other side of the world who brings home the bacon-err beef bacon (we live in Saudi Arabia), I basically ensured I will always be livin’ this nomadic life.
Whether you’re in your new home for 3 months or 3 years, I’ve got some ATYPICAL advice to making it feel like home. So much so, that when you leave/move on/take the next opportunity, you’ll be sayin’ you’re gonna miss YOUR home (more on that below).
SETTLING INTO A NEW CITY